How to guide kids in the right direction in a friendly manner
                     How to guide kids in the right direction in a 
friendly manner
  
  Uma Bharati
  Writes articles for Gurucool.fun, on topics like
  Indian culture for kids and Indian culture for children.
Parenting can prove to be a complex and stressful task, especially while 
molding your children's behaviour to shape their personality. However, it is 
necessary to stay friendly during the process, as excessive strictness or 
negativity can cause more harm than good. Do not be pedantic in your 
approach as it might affect the child's perspectives adversely.
When the children constantly feel like they are failing to live up to their 
parents' expectations, it creates negativity within them. When raised in a 
friendly manner, kids are more likely to be moulded in the right direction 
without feeling like it is being forced to do so. Here are a few tips on how you 
can go about it:
- Do not fixate your expectations too high: While raising your children, do not 
expect perfection from them. Instead, expect and encourage them to put up 
the effort necessary to foster perfection. Not every child is the same and it is 
unrealistic to expect yours to be perfect or like any other child that you 
consider an ideal example.
- Be patient: You would have to understand that children do not understand 
the reasoning behind everything you ask them to do. Hence, you cannot 
expect them to follow all your orders immediately without asking any 
question. You must commit time and patience to teach your child to 
understand the need for following instructions. Forcing your kids to follow 
instructions as soon as you asked them to do something would only give them 
a feeling of being dictated.
- Avoid punishing them: While punishments are still used as a popular way to 
groom children, it isn't exactly the best. Punishment only teaches a child what 
to do and what not to do, and they follow these rules just for the fear of being 
punished. Although they would follow your instructions now, they might stop 
doing so upon growing up, when they can avoid punishment. A better 
approach to correct their mistakes would be to do so in a non-punishing 
manner.
- Help build moral values: While correcting your children's mistakes in a non-
punishing way as suggested above, try to help them realise their own 
mistakes. A morality and logic-based approach would help to build up moral 
values within them. This is because they would correct themselves not 
because they want to avoid punishment, but because they would be aware of 
what is right and what is not.. 
- Try to be flexible: Not every approach of disciplining works on every child 
and hence, inflexible methods aren't really the best. Try to keep strict and 
inflexible ways only as a last resort and help your children understand what is 
expected from them.
- Teach them to be optimistic: The best way to counter negativity is to think 
optimistically. Teach your kids to look at the brighter side of things. Optimistic 
children are also less likely to undergo depression during puberty or later 
stages..  
Indeed, raising your kids and moulding them in such a friendly manner can at 
first look appear stressful and difficult. However, once you commit to do this 
activity with your kids and be mentally prepared to be a bit patient, you 
would be surprised with the contentment you will derive from these efforts. 
You will be glad that you started this activity. Even though your children may 
not appreciate your efforts at this time, they would do so in the future when 
they look back at their childhood from the perspective of an adult.  
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