Parallel Parenting vs Co-Parenting: Which Works Better After a Divorce
                     Parallel Parenting vs 
Co-Parenting
Which works better after a high-conflict divorce?
Understanding Parenting Models After Divorce
When a marriage ends on tense terms, managing shared parenting 
becomes one of the most complex aspects of post-divorce life. The 
way parents divide responsibilities and communicate directly affects 
a child's emotional and psychological well-being.
Two common frameworks emerge: co-parenting and parallel 
parenting. While both aim to maintain strong parent-child 
relationships, they differ in structure, communication style, and 
effectiveness—especially when conflict remains high.
What is Co-Parenting?
Active Communication Consistency & Security
Parents collaborate and make Children feel supported and 
joint decisions about education, experience less stress when 
healthcare, and routines. parents communicate 
respectfully.
High-Conflict Risk
When hostility remains, co-parenting can turn harmful—children feel 
anxious and torn between loyalties.
What is Parallel Parenting?
A Different Approach
Parallel parenting minimizes interaction between parents while 
maintaining strong, separate relationships with the child. Each 
parent independently manages their own household rules and 
routines.
• Communication limited to essential matters
• Often handled through written means or parenting apps
• Reduces potential for conflict
• Children benefit from reduced tension
When Parallel Parenting Works Best
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Communication Court Recommendation Child Protection
Breakdown
Alberta courts often recommend Provides peace and allows 
When co-parenting consistently this arrangement when parents to focus on their roles 
fails due to repeated conflict or harassment or emotional without emotional confrontation.
emotional confrontation. manipulation occurs.
Legal Considerations in Alberta
Best Interests of the Child Clear Structure
Alberta courts prioritize the child's well-being and Parallel parenting plans outline schedules, decision-
recommend structured parenting plans when conflict making authority, and communication rules to reduce 
threatens emotional stability. disputes.
Psychological Impact on Children
Children exposed to constant parental conflict face higher risks of anxiety and behavioral issues.
High-Conflict Co-Parenting Parallel Parenting Cooperative Co-Parenting
Increases child anxiety, loyalty Protects well-being by limiting Fosters consistency and emotional 
conflicts, and exposure to hostility. parental interaction and reducing security across both homes.
tension.
Choosing What Works Best
No Universal Answer
The right choice depends entirely on the parents' ability to 
communicate.
Co-parenting works when: Both parties remain respectful 
and cooperative, allowing children to thrive with shared 
decision-making and unity.
Parallel parenting works when: Conflict is persistent and 
communication breaks down—prioritizing peace and 
emotional safety.
How Kolinsky Law Can Help
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Evaluate Your Circumstances Create Tailored Plans
We assess your family's unique emotional, legal, and logistical Our Family Law Lawyers design parenting arrangements that 
challenges. protect your child's well-being.
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Reduce Conflict Protect Parental Rights
We provide clear, compassionate, and strategic legal advice to Ensuring your child's stability remains at the heart of every decision.
minimize disputes.
Ready to Create a 
Child-Focused Plan?
Contact Kolinsky Law
Phone: (780) 757-6400
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Address: 212A – 10807 Castle Downs Road, Edmonton, AB
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